Monday, March 31, 2008

Letting go...

Well, tomorrow marks the day that will change International Adoption (at least for many countries..China and the U.S. included) in a pretty significant way. After tomorrow any seeking to adopt a child from a country who signed the Hague Treaty, oh so many years ago, will need to be working with a Hague accredited adoption agency. Anyone who is already in the process of adopting will need to be working with an accredited agency in order to complete their adoption.

Towards the end of February a list of approved Hague adoption service providers was released and surprisingly our agency, Children's Hope International, was not on it. They had apparently been placed in a "pending" status by the COA (Council on Accreditation). Although they have been working, and will continue to work, diligently to become accredited it is appears that it will be months (maybe as late as early fall) before they will be in a position to request that the "pending" status be removed and approval given. If, at that time, they are not approved, we will be "transfer ed" to an agency that has already been approved in order to complete the adoption. At least that's what we are being told at this time. Many, many things are still up in the air...including whether or not our agency will continue to receive referrals for their clients while they are "pending". There is also the issue of families being able to renew necessary documents while their agency is pending. Only time will tell how all of this will be worked out and how it will effect our adoption, if at all.

I spent a great deal of time last week researching all that I could think to research, making tons of phone calls, sending tons of emails...trying to do anything I could to secure our position. Sadly, there's was little, in fact nothing, I could do to help our situation. So, I am forced to just "let go" for now. I have to trust that the Hague committee, USCIS and the CCAA will come up with a plan that will be in the best interest of all the children who are waiting for their family to come get them and the families who want so desperately to bring their child home. There has been so much change in the world of international adoption in the past few years that it is hard, almost impossible, to feel confident that all will OK. But, we are not alone and the chances that the adoption of so many people (our agency alone has 800 families logged in in China) will be ruined by policy changes, or the like, is probably pretty small. So, for now, it's time to sit back and see where all the cards will fall. We were told 2 1/2 years ago at our required course on adoption that, "International Adoption is very rewarding, but IT IS NOT EASY". The "not easy" part I get...I can't wait to see the reward!
P.S. On a funnier note...the boys and I were over at my sister-in-law's house on Saturday night and her daughter wanted to watch Annie the movie....so needless to say we were all sitting around watching it. I totally got emotional watching it!!! You know you are going through a bad spell when "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow" song gets you misty!! I'm still laughing at myself about it....Hopefully it was just the wine, otherwise I'm turning into a total sap!

Thursday, March 20, 2008

What a difference a few days can make!


Last week was full of good things. We celebrated our two year LID anniversary, had a visit from our social worker to update our home study report, and had our 14th wedding anniversary! Doug and I spent the weekend celebrating our anniversary by eating out, going shopping, giving gifts to each other, going to the movies, laying by the pool...all of our favorite things! Life felt good!


This week, however, it feels as if the rug has been pulled out from under us. Due to circumstance beyond our control, our adoption has been placed in jeopardy. We are doing everything in our power to try to secure our position, but are uncertain as to how much of a positive effect our efforts will have on the fate of our family.


My heart goes out to all those families who, like us, are being faced with this uncertainty.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Our TWO YEAR LID anniversary


Well, yesterday was our two year LID anniversary. It's hard to believe it's been that long since we were told we were officially logged into the program with the CCAA. In some ways it hasn't felt like two years, and in some ways it feels like we've been doing this forever. When I look back and see how far we've come, I realize that this last leg of the wait will be over before we know it as well.


We celebrated by gathering with our family at the Chinese Cultural Center. Sadly, Doug wasn't feeling well and had to leave dinner early, but the rest of us enjoyed ourselves. We ate at the Golden Buddha (pictured above) and then walked through the Asian grocery store. I'm always so grateful for the support of my family. They are so excited about the adoption. At times I think the wait is almost harder on them than on us. It's nice to know our little sugarplum is loved already!


Thanks for celebrating with us everyone! And, thanks for the balloons...who knows, maybe one of them will float it's way to China (at least that's what Benji was hoping)

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

They did it again!!!


I just received notification from our agency that referrals have arrived for the month of March! ANOTHER 8 DAY BATCH!!! It seems almost silly to rejoice over an 8 day batch, but given what the CCAA has been able to do recently, it's an improvement...a step in the right direction. I'm still hoping to get one, maybe two, 10 batches here in the next few months! It would make a huge difference in our wait time.

The other things about this batch of referrals that I feel like shouting from my rooftop is that...."THEY ARE FINALLY MATCHING 2006 FAMILIES"!!!! I can't believe it. Our year is officially in the works. I'm so thrilled! With so little to rejoice over, with regards to the adoption, this past year this is making me so totally excited!

Below is the announcement from our agency:

Document Processing

The CCAA has finished the review of the adoption application documentsregistered with our office before October 31, 2006. The CCAA has finished the placement of children for the families whoseadoption application documents were registered with our office beforeJanuary 04, 2006. This group of referrals covered the 12/28/05 through 1/4/06 log indates. Unfortunately, Children's Hope did not have any log in datesduring this period, so we did not receive any referrals or Chinese expedited referrals. Our next log in dates are 1/6/06, 1/13/06 and1/16/06.
Congratulations to all the families who are seeing their child's face for the first time!!!